I agree with you entirely man, which was really the crux of my counter argument above, and why I am often so resistant to change in this regard.Rawny wrote:People have the right to say dumb things and people have the right to dislike, disagree and feel bad but where do we draw the line?
However, in this case I think a solid argument has been made for why given the historical context the word "retard" (r-word? :) ) is particularly hurtful and sends a message far beyond what is likely intended.
It's not like I pull punches with stuff like this or am lacking in words that convey the meaning I intend. Rule #1 on the forums is clearly written as "don't be an idiot". I don't think anyone is arguing that a word like "idiot" is hurtful beyond its intended purpose (which is hurtful in itself) or even arguing I shouldn't use it despite it being downright mean on occasion, and that word is entirely sufficient to convey my intended meaning without it also creating a bunch of painful side-effects which in no way contribute to me communicating what I want to.
I think the "line" largely comes down to what I said above about "collateral damage". If you are using a weapon that inflicts damage beyond the intended target, and winds up hurting people that you have no intention of harming, you may want to reconsider your choice of weapon. You are not only creating a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering through your actions, but you are also likely weakening your own cause in the process.
Again, I think the Confederate flag analogy works very well there. Being very rebellious by nature, I can be very sympathetic to people being resistant to federal authority. However, there's no way in hell I'm going to stand under that flag while doing so.